Delighting and Disciplining

Nora Allyn Nicksich


Children are a Blessing

We recently celebrated the birth of our beautiful baby girl Nora. Holding her in my arms, a familiar and favorite Scripture came to mind, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward” (Psalm 127:3)

Children are blessings from God. Just as every good and perfect gift is from God above (James 1:17), so children are gifts from the maker to mankind. The psalmist describes children as metaphoric arrows saying a full quiver of them is a blessing to parents (127:4-5).

Delighting and Disciplining

Receiving this gift from God, Nora Allyn Nicksich, delighting in her life is easy. She always listens to me. She always obeys me. She always respects me. She is never late for curfew. She doesn’t lie. She even allows me to choose and approve her wardrobe without argument, though my wife has considerable influence. Delighting in my child now is without obstacles. 

Holding my baby girl, a striking thought occurred. Disciplining my child in the future will present challenges. One day, my child will not listen to me. One day she will disrespect and disobey me. One day, delighting in her will prove difficult because discipline will need to occur first. Like two sides of a coin, delighting in your child always includes disciplining them. Without one side or the other, your child receives an imbalanced and unbiblical childhood.

Solomon articulates this profound parenting truth, “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights” (Proverbs 3:11-12.

Parents are to discipline their children as God disciplines His own. In fact, Solomon states the love of God is demonstrated within the action of reproof. Proverbs links discipline with delighting when saying, “for the Lord reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights” (3:12). Biblical discipline will emanate from a posture of love and delight in one’s children, just as the Lord disciplines the children whom He loves and delights in. 

Disciplining your children is loving them. 

To love is to discipline, and to delight is to reproof. Do not miss this most wonderful spiritual truth. Disciplining your children is loving them. Delighting in your children will demand discipline. Correcting and confronting your child’s sin from the pages of Scripture is the most loving action a parent can do. Training up a chid in the way he should go includes course correction regarding their faith in and obedience to God. The Proverbs further conclude that reproof gives wisdom [in godliness and livelihood], but a child left to himself only brings shame and disgrace to his parents (Proverbs 29:15). 

As parents speak the truth in love to their children, a disciplined child will bring even greater delight to their parents. As disciplined children of God, our Father is delighted all the more when we are obedient to His will and His Word. This is why Scripture is profitable for teaching, correction, reproof and training in righteousness. When the children of God are disciplined, so our heavenly Father delights.


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