“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” (Titus 2:4-5).
The Apostle Paul exhorts Titus to teach sound doctrine to the Christians in Crete. After addressing the men (Titus 2:3), he turns his attention to Christian women. Older women are called to be reverent (respectful) in their behavior, and not slanderers or addicted to wine. In addition, older women are to fulfill their God-given duty to teach the younger women correct doctrine concerning the life of a Godly woman. Titus 2:4-5 reveals six principles to guide the life of a godly woman.
Principle 1: The Life of a Godly woman brings love into the home.
Godly women bring love to their husbands and children through active, selfless, and sacrificial love. This unconditional love does not rely on family conditions being met, but on a deliberate choice made by a woman of God toward her family. The life of a Godly woman will bring love that encompasses the mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional needs of her family being met on a daily basis.
Principle 2: The Life of a Godly woman is self-controlled.
Godly women exhibit self-control in their thoughts, words, and deeds. Evil finds no place in the woman of God because her love is genuine and good (Romans 12:9). Due to the licentious behavior of some self-claimed Godly women, the word of God is criticized and attacked (Titus 2:5). In contrast, the woman of God follows her Lord and Savior by denying her sinful nature, rejecting worldly temptations, and enduring the schemes of the devil (Matthew 16:24).
Principle 3: The Life of a Godly woman is pure.
A Godly woman is called to purity in her conduct as well. It is the “respectful and pure conduct” that the Apostle Peter commands godly women to enact and possibly win the souls of their unbelieving spouses through these qualities (1 Peter 3:1-2). Purity encompasses what Peter describes as the “hidden person of the heart” that is clothed with “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Peter 3:4). It is this adorning of purity that is precious in God’s sight, and the reason Peter commands women not to preoccupy their heart, mind, and soul with the adorning of external beautification.
Principle 4: The Life of a Godly woman is prioritized in the home.
While addressing young widows still able to bear children the Apostle Paul declares, “So I would have younger widows marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the adversary no occasion for slander” (1 Timothy 5:14). A Godly woman finds priority in her home. Christian women are granted the God-given blessing to marry, raise children, and manage the household or “work in the home” (Titus 2:5). The home should find proper priority before personal endeavors or achievements.
Principle 5: The Life of a Godly woman is kind.
A godly woman adorns herself with kindness. She seeks the good of others by demonstrating that which is good of herself. A kindly woman recognizes the needs of others and seeks to meet those needs through her abilities, resources, prayers, and faith.
Principle 6: The Life of a Godly woman is submissive to her husband.
Wives are called to “submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). This submission is not exclusive to a godly woman but accompanied by a godly man’s command to submit to Christ (Ephesians 5:22). The husband is not to command and demand submission from his wife, but to receive that which she gives freely. However, a godly woman is one who freely gives submission unconditionally because she is commanded to do so by Christ. A godly woman submits to the spiritual leadership of her husband who is also called to submit to Christ in all things, “My beloved is mine, and I am his;” (Song of Solomon 2:16).
To my beloved:
You are a godly young woman filled with love for me and our future family. You love in word and in deed. You are self-controlled in word and deed. You do not gossip, discourage, or slander others. You seek to control your temper and tongue in all circumstances. You seek purity of heart, mind, and soul. You seek to discern holy influences over your life. You adorn yourself with beauty, but yet your real beauty is from the hidden person of heart inside. In honor of my beautiful and godly wife, thank you for being a Godly woman. You are my priceless pearl, I love you and Happy Birthday.